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First look of the year and we're- as in me- are keeping things simple and true to my style. If you're new here, please know that one of my top three wardrobe staples would be a white button down. Tailored, boyfriend, blogger tuck, untucked,  you literally have so many options of ways to wear this iconic shirt. I'm literally wearing one underneath a sweatshirt as I type this. I was gifted this fun silver-flecked one and it's a fun twist on a classic style. 
In being true to self (read here and here), I pulled out a few recent buys to get this complete look. I'm more of a silver girl, which I'm sure you can tell, and I love a good leather jacket. Leave it to Michael Kors to come up with a fix for a girl like me. I'm literally OBSESSED with this jacket because its so versatile and attention grabbing. I enjoy standing out without having to do much and a metallic silver leather jacket lets you do just that. 

I had a vision for this shoot and I'm happy with how things turned out! Since I'm writing my thoughts about Self this month, my plan was to capture me in some of my most favorite things or doing some of my favorite things. Here, I'm wearing a lot of my favorite pieces while enjoying a burger, lol. Pretty simple, but significant. I'm a sucker for a good burger and REALLY appreciated getting to chow down while shooting! 
Shirt: Gap (Similar Below) | Leather Jacket: Michael Kors | Jeans: Gap (Similar Below) | Shoes: Steve Madden | Clutch: Gap (Similar Below)  | Sunglasses: Ray-Ban


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Fun News!!  I have recently joined ShopStyle Collective so it will be SO much easier to shop my looks! I'll be linking ALL pieces that I have on and showcasing similar items for the things that are no longer available! It makes shopping SO much easier :)  Also, know that with the affiliate links, I will receive a small percentage of sales, but I promise to not link anything I wouldn't buy myself! #IPromise
Welcome back to our second entry into the self series. I think we got off to a good start with covering self-love and it's my hope that it triggered something in someone to think about how they honor themselves. I don't know if you can tell, but I really do care about everyone's well being.

After self-love, the topic of self respect HAS to come next. I'm a firm believer that if you love something, you should respect it (even though I'm one of the "respect is a given" types). This goes for people, places, and things, with BIG emphasis on people. For me, self-respect is the acceptance and higher regard of self. By loving myself first, I  then accept myself as I am and I set standards for myself.


The standards set are always to honor and respect who you are as a person. They aren't necessarily strict rules for others, or yourself, to abide by, but more of a guideline of what's deemed acceptable to life. A personal example would be my dislike for the "B word". I personally don't use it and I make it known that I don't like to be called that, no matter how casual its meant to be. That's a standard I've set for myself and don't budge on. Again, its a personal example, but just something I wanted to use to illustrate how we get to pick and choose what can and cant honor us.

Oftentimes, self-respect is mentioned most in regards to romantic relationships, but it shouldn't stop there. I was reading an article that penned self-respect in terms of achievements that said it's "We like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do." I thought this was interesting because I know that for many, standards equate to worth and that worth can come from capabilities. Because I can't do xyz, I cant have 123. It's easy to see how this is big in relationships and causes most to settle, but it doesn't have to be like this - in any area of life. 
We like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do.
From my personal experience, you gain self-respect from either experiencing something that completely disrespects you or from having a natural sense of worth. I've gotten to my level of respect via both and I think they each can be a good teacher. Life isn't always fair, but when the decision is made to what you will and wont accept out of it is made, things change for the better. Every choice made is a reflection of what we deem worthy to us. And I find that worth is all tied back to how much we in turn respect ourselves. 
Happy New Year guys! 

I hope y'all have been enjoying all 2019 has been blessing you with. Yes, I'm aware we're literally hours in, but big things can pop off in a second! I'm claiming this year as one for the books for everyone because 1. we all deserve to win and 2. I care about y'all and want you guys to be happy! 

I'm so happy the days are falling like they are because THIS post is needed today! I have decided to theme most months this year and have correlating topics to discuss month long. For the inaugural theme, I wanted to start the year with something that is very important and worthwhile to anyone that may come across Syd and the City, and concluded I would start with self this month.  

"January is deemed the month of self because it all starts with you."   

I thought it would be smart to start with self love this week because if were going to start with self, we should first look at how we love our self since that trickles down into every other area of our lives. According to Merriam-Webster, Self-Love is defined as love of self and regards for one's own happiness or advantage. I respect both of these definitions because they adhere to my personal opinion of what self love is - loving and accepting yourself enough to care for your own happiness. I want to point out now that everyone has their own definition of self love and as long as its something you personally resonate with, its fine. I just want to talk about its importance and why you need it. 

As mentioned before, how we love ourselves trickles down into every other aspect of our lives. It's so important to set the tone with yourself in order to set the tone for others. What we allow is reflective of what we deem acceptable. I use to not agree with that, because of outside variables, but it's pretty true when you think about it. A person can't treat me any kind of way because I have a standard for what is and isn't okay based on my self respect, which comes from my self love. More on self respect later, so don't expect us to dive deeper on that right now. 

"It's so important to set the tone with yourself in order to set the tone for others"
The beauty of loving yourself properly is that it helps create a better and happier version of you. To put your needs first and treat yourself loving isn't always easy, but it is necessary. We will all hit a point in our lives where we have to do what's best for us and that in turn helps us be our best. And I want to let you know now that it is okay to make your needs a priority. You have to make your needs a priority in order to meet them and not settle.

There is beauty is having a genuine love for yourself. It changes the way you act to not only yourself, but others. I have the belief that when we are doing our best to love ourselves the best, we can be of service and love others better. Self love is an inward job that is personally beneficial, but when one has done the work properly, they radiate such positive energy for everyone else.



 "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans. The Lord works out everything to its proper end - even the wicked for a day of disaster."Proverbs 16: 3-4
It has been a long time coming, but we have officially made it! 2018 was an incredible year filled with so much growth, happiness, change, and understanding. I personally believe it was my most transformative year to date and I thank God for all that has came from it. 
I am spending my last few days of this year in planning mode. I wholeheartedly believe 2019 will be great. I have already submitted it to God for His doing and I'm going to be fair and do my part too. There's a lot I'm planning for, so the preparation has to start now. If you have any goals or major moves you want to make, I hope you let the next few days really honing in on what you want and GO after it with all you have. 
Until Next Time
Dress: Zara | Shoes: Steve Madden | Earrings: Custom 
Photography via Bluufox Photography 

I have realized that as I love shooting holiday content, it is H A R D. I try to find really cool places, but the struggle is the crowds! All of the most festive spots are known and its so funny when we go to shoot and kinda wait for our "turn". We witnessed the cutest little family getting Christmas pictures during this look and spent a nice time, taking turns at some key points in the shop!
There is the most festive coffee shop in Dallas that I had to get to! I missed this location last year and was determined to spend some time and shoot here this year! I went with Chance and a friend and the Christmas theme is heavy! There's logs, pine cones, Christmas trees, and more! If the holiday time is your fave and you want to get some work done while enjoying a festive drink, be sure to check out Fiction Coffee
Sweater: Old Navy | Button Down: Levi's | Jeans: Levi's | Boots: Ugg
Photography by Bluufox Photography 
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